It
is very true that the last two decades has shown a steep rise of divorce cases
in the US and many other parts of the world. However it is clear that most
divorces can be avoided if only the concerned partners accept the principle
rule of marriage. Which is, learning and accepting your partner the way he or
she is. Based on this, here is how you can happily live with a provocative wife
and safely avoid her stings.
Firsts
let’s put things clear. What would make a wife provocative?
There
are many factors leading to this, which include;
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Her upbringing
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Parent's lifestyle
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Survival adaptations
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Educational and professional background
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Misbehaving husband and many other factors
Some
wives have recorded that they resolved to be rude simply because no one cared
for them while they were young. It seems that some women take the act of being
provocative as the only way of successfully passing their message. Also maybe
it's a character which one adopted from the parents. While to some, having a
provoking element is taken as a survival technique: they use it as a protective
gear while others as a means to achieve certain goals in life.
It
is also important to understand that the educational and professional
background of an individual can influence her character, and this makes some to
appear provocative. For instance an extremely conservative teacher, who has not
been enlightened, always thinks that everybody is a student: including the
hubby. Thus she may unknowably behave provocatively.
So
how exactly can you deal with a wife who proves to be provocative?
For
one, you must accept that you've got no power to change or even recreate your
wife. She is the way she is because of some of the mentioned factors and of
which you were not a role player. So how do you exactly rewind the past to
correct the part that went wrong? The best and only way out is to learn how to
avoid her stings! And this is how;
Read
her mood
Naturally,
women are emotional beings and you can't change that. They suffer from
emotional ups and down surges. So, you should be vigilant and know when to spit
the romancing words and when not to. Never think that you are the only thing in
her mind, you have to make it to be. Use politeness and wisdom to let her know
that you care and would wish a softer life other than a striving one. However
don't force this, just let it be known to her.
Give
gentle answers
When
she is out of balance on her emotions and you discover those ranting words, be
gentle and offer gentle answers and solutions. The ideas is simple, she is
provocative because she wants an action taken over something that is disturbing
her. So you are the person to lets her blocked mind visualize the way out of
that problem.
Don't
strive
With
ultimate care, let your wife know that you didn’t marry a debating machine. Reduce
the chances of arguing at all costs because this is often what leads to strive.
And if you must debate over an issue, show that even the winner will not gain a
bronze medal and if so the medal will remain a victory in that house.
And
last but not least, it could be wiser to get her into some counseling sessions
with a qualified marriage professional. Don't allow the mentality of divorce
take over where dialogue can resolve an issue. Also, it is wise that you
concentrate on learning how you as an individual can cope up with her character.
Yes the wife could be provocative but you can learn how to adapt into the situation
if she fails to improve. Yes you can!
Labels: life, Personal Growth