Friday

Do you Exactly Know what makes You Feel Offended...?

Feel offended

He he he ... Wonders ooh! Did you ever know that the people who appear more friendly, and harmless to you are, are indeed the happiest when you are in trouble or a challenging situation? Ha ha ... And this can makes you feel as if the heart wants to burst with rage, the feeling is like someone touching the softest tissues in the neuron system and the message of betrayal is so loud in the brains... So how can you handle such nonsense to avoid the "feel-extremely-offended scar from remaining fresh even after years.

Okay, one thing I want you to understand, is, the feeling is an emotional battle and you have to fight and overcome it. Life is generally about overcoming, you have to learn to leave above human offence. See, you can't really avoid conducts with people that will hurt or offend you, that's almost next to impossible. So the best way is having some necessary tips that will help to always pre-detect the things that has direct and exact power to make you feel offended.

1.Accept to understand people
For one its is important that you understand and accept the fact that people can't help but often offend you. It's in their nature and you have to live with that fact. So no matter how much they try not to offend you but it'll just happen. The best thing is to understand that everybody has their point of view in life and that's the reason for collisions. 

2.Expect
You often feel offended because you've not set your heart to expect it. See, as much as we are humans, cases of one offending another remain part of life. So you have to start practicing the art of letting go. In fact to be wise is to understand people and knowing their both sides. Simply acknowledge that a human being has two sides, the bad and good side. And there can never exist one with only the good side.

3.Know that people do change
Today you could be in very good relationship, everything is well, you think it's heaven and nothing will ever change. That's a lie, and a bad one in fact. Despite how supportive, caring or even sacrificial your marriage partner or friend may seem today, just know they can change any time. The simple knowing of it can help feel less offended when they think otherwise or do something offensive to you.

4.Keep it to yourself
We often think that everybody should and must feel happy for our success, okay that ought to be the case but it's not how things go. There are those including the dearest of heart that will never want your success. In fact what they want is for you to remain in the same level with them or even below. You can simply help your heart by not feeling offended by such folks. Just ignore their compliments and do what you must do. Keep the things you want to achieve as personal and not public agendas.

It's important to note that, the people offending you are themselves trapped in a hurting-mode, confusion or pain. And they are in a way trying to resolve their internal issues. The truth is they actually lurk understanding over their actions. someone with good understanding knows that you can't hurt, offend or cause pain to another person without feeling the same.  

Writing for Google Search to Boost Website Traffic Levels

Writing for Google

Online authors write for various reasons and I just realized a size-able group does it for google search. However, most of them ("and you included") miss a point that's of great essence to meeting your key purpose. That is, they do it without the right calculations, and end up surrendering their website(s) to sink into hell. But for you, don't worry, I'll share right in this post what you can do and henceforth never to worry about your blog traffic levels.

What calculations are we taking about here? ...See, you don't just wright because you have some basic SEO knowledge and expect to get it right! (okay forgive my rather brutal honestly, I just want to help you dear). Optimizing your blog is necessary but that will not  really guarantee you high website traffic levels, you need some simple maths into action. 

The boggling questions that you find yourself asking concerning website traffic levels is common to almost everyone with a blog. And this is why you see SEO companies thrive by trying to answer it. What you don't know is, the answer lies right with you( the website owner). Actually, the need for traffic is a big catch to SEO companies, but the sad news is, the strategies they use are the same on every client. Now the big question is, how do you outshine your competers with "overused tricks"?

They'll claim to make your website appear number one, or even better your googled search but, don't forget they'll do the same or even better to your competitor. Solution: Considering today's competition for traffic levels, its important simply analyze things for yourself before engaging these companies. What I mean is, know that you are in a competition and for your site to stand out, you ought to do what others are not doing.

I have a perfectly working and proven strategy that will help you boost your google search, or simply, this techniques tend to give you power to dictate the traffic levels on your website or blog. I can hear you asking what? Is this guy joking or does he think he's smarter? Okay, let me swallow pride and answer both question,

"The what part" yea, you can dictate over your traffic levels by your writing. What you write has extreme power to create or destroy you. See, besides writing for google search and SEO, ensure that what you write is of required quality. Let your ideas offer real help to the searcher, off-cause you don't want to be like an airport's runaway, where audiences land but immediately take off. That's not productive traffic, ensure that after landing, you clients get something to make them stay around or even come back.

See, you dictate over the level of your website traffic by the quality of information you give. Give a highly needed info and visitors will come to stay, but do the opposite and you get the opposite. Take yourself as a reader and rate your writing, then see if it's offering you any real help. ...Okay, lets go direct to the second quizz...

Being smarter than you: sincerely speaking, you must wear "a smart" attitude if you are to outshine others and scoup a better share of traffic levels for your website. You ought to give reasons to the google-search-robots for it to consider your writings. Its not magic, you have to be smart. Look into, [length of posts, spellings, use of graphics and photos]. Okay? Check into the enclosed bracket before this sentence, ...and finally your prime tip as bellow.  

Here is the technique_ WRITE VERY MANY HIGH QUALITY POSTS. Sounds simple, huh? yeap! Let's crack it, you have 100 blog post which gives you an approximate traffic level of 40 visitors per day, what do you think1000 blog posts will do. Let's take that all these posts are keyword optimized. So if every 100 post gives 40 visitors, therefore 1000 posts equals to 40x10= 80: bare in mind that this is the daily minimum expected traffic level for your website.

So, for 5000 posts you'll have a clean 80x5 = 400 visitors per day. The good thing with this technique is, its not a hype. Am not enticing you with figures, it is a matter of getting what you smartly work for. See, with 5000 SEO written blog post you have an assurance of 400 google searching visitors falling on your pages.

Father prove of this: see, assume you get 1 visitor per post everyday, it means 1x 100posts is 100 visitors. And again:

1 visitor x1000post =1000 visitors
1 visitor x5000post =5000visitors
1 visitor x10,000post =10,000 visitors 
1 visitor x100,000post =100,000 visitors
1 visitor x1000,000post =1000,000 visitors 

See! This is not a hype and am not enticing you dear, the simple logic is, write, write, and write. This what the big websites do, like BBC, FOX,  ABC and the likes do up dates to their website after almost every hour. So, if you ever want to shine as an author writing for google search, why not dictate your website traffic levels by this tip!?

Thursday

Understanding your Marriage Partner

Understanding your Partner

Understanding is among the most essential elements needed to keep a marriage afloat. As you know, all marriage have issues, including President Obama's leave alone that of Prince Williams. It is a school and nobody ever graduates from it. It is naturally designed to have ups, downs, vallies, joy, sad moments, happy times and all sorts of circumstances that exist. With these said, the only thing that will ever assure you of a better and happy marriage is understanding.

So, what exactly does understanding mean in marriage? Put aside the dictionary and lets be practical! Okay this ain't rudeness nor arrogance, but there is that word meaning from a dictionary and the real practical version of it's definition. See... You can only begin to understand your partner when you totally accept that they are human. So what does being human has to do with how you live with your spouse?

Simple! He/she is destined to do mistakes and act humanly. Nobody can ever afford to live exactly as expected in this world. Humans will always have mistakes and it is our duty and responsibility to accept that fact. Don't spent you life trying to change someone cause you can't. Simply understand and move on. The weaknesses you see in your partner are there to make life "exiting" and wondrous.

Teach your mind to always know that your partner will never be perfect no matter what, and secure your peace. Another important thing to take in is, your partner has nothing to do with the level of joy in your life. Yes, they are there to make you happy but don't forget they also have the same need! You can't really demand someone to make you happy cause it's your own responsibility to do it.

Simply understand and accept that your marriage partner may never fully meet your wants in life. And in fact nobody and nothing in this life can ever fully satisfy you (me and anybody) in this life. Just accept life, and that we humans always want new things in life. Expecting your partner to give joy and happiness 24/7 is simply both unrealistic and unfair. He/she is also human, just as you are, so its better to understand that life is not always bread and butter. It's also about pains, healing, forgiving and forgetting among others.

To be sincere, this lack of understanding is what makes us think our marriage partner is not good enough. This mindset is somewhat natural but not realist. Simply accept that yourself you are human and you'll always want what you don't have. Get it so far? Don't waste lots of time trying to meet every desire and need in your marriage life. Simply understand and accept your partner's weaknesses and device ways to cope up with him/her.

So how do you device ways to cope up with you marriage partner? A good question! ... And this is the answer, ...simply "read" his/her likes, dislikes, strong points and weaknesses. After that, manage all that to ensure peace is what prevails. Good relationships are made on the foundations of sacrifice, meaning you have to give away your pride, and decide to understand your partner in details.

Wednesday

How to Stay Calm in this Chaotic Life

Cheotic life? Stay calm

Have you ever realized that you can give yourself a holiday even when surrounded by loads of work of work? It's very much possible, you can work under minimal stress even when pressured... For instance, despite the fact that am sometimes extremely busy, I've found a way that makes me more calm and productive in this chaotic life.

See, I call it chaotic simply because, the hustle and bustle of life makes the mind feel as if there is a lot going on around. Okay you maybe in an isolated, less-noisy office but still feel as if it's a stone grinding factory with noise emanating from all directions, just because of how the mind is stressed, and thoughts dis-organized. ...Yes, that is exactly what I mean, you feel stressed by financial matters, family issues, heath, weight issues, appearance, schooling and the likes, such that it's like chaos everywhere.

Not once does this happen, (I believe also to you?) however there is technique I want to share with you right here, its how you can stay calm in the midst of all the hullaballoos of life. Know why I've not yet mentioned it? This is why, the tip is not just like any other idea, in fact its a vital tool that once you incorporate it into your habits, you'll significantly reduce stress in your life. Hope you are now prepared enough to take it in.

ACCEPT, RELAX AND PLAN. Yes, these are the magic words... So, what's there to accept? Possibly not everything but, simply accept that life is how it is. And that you've got to do somethings to achieve a goal, as in; its mandatory to eat healthy foods whether I like it or not, its mandatory to go gym if am to stay fit, I must understand my wife if am to remain peaceful, I must accept to forgive humans if am to remain joyous. See? You have to ACCEPT life's principles to just be "okay"

While accepting how life is and its principles, you'll be allowing your mind and soul to relax right in the middle of all hustles and bustles. And this is know when you should be planning. Plan on what to do to ease or reduce stresses in the various areas of life. If its financial constrains, develope a habit of budgeting for every coin that falls on your hand.

If you're struggling with time management and its giving you stress, the solutions is plan to sleep early in advance. Set a bed time that will allow you to at least have 7 hours of undisturbed sleep every day and you'll automatically be waking up early. And finally, accept what you can't change and lean to cope up-(that is, don't struggle with the past), ...accept the principles of life( that is, you can only achieve what you go for). And as said, relax and plan for everything with simplicity. These simples tips guarantee, a less-stressed life. Big Time!

Monday

How to Smartly Cope with a Teasing Marriage Partner

Irritating partner

It's important to understand that to some people, teasing is uncontrollable. It's habit that they grow up with. In fact it's important that you accept they have a problem. However, the sad thing is, such people don't accept that they need any help. In fact the best thing is to just know it in your heart and device ways to cope with them. Especially in marriage, you must learn to accept your partner if he/she is of this caliber.

It is also necessary to note that they can change as they advance in age, so it could be a temporary habit that you need to cope with. Please note my emphasis: Understand how a "teaser" behaves but don't dwell in their actions. Just know what to expect and how to cope up, but don't spent your life trying to change a person. So, what's there to expect from such a character;

#1. Irritating questions
A teasing marriage partner asks questions just to irritate you, they do it on purpose to control your emotions and reactions. So if you are hot tempered, its easy to do regrettable things. He/she will ask you questions with obvious answers, just to ignite you. SOLUTION to this: Since you know what they want and where they are going, don't light up, don't allow your feelings to be manipulated.

This is achievable by calmly answering the question using the fewest words possible. Don't resist the poke, just shift the subject with snakish wisdom. ...See, if you suspect some sort of manipulation, don't allow your emotions to be hijacked since it may lead you into stress. Work smart and avoid issues!

#2. Bad Looks
Have ever realized that you can be negatively teased by a bad look? In fact this is very pron in most marriages. And just to be brutally honest, wifes do it best( although even men give irritating looks). Without this knowledge you may assume that your partner is not good, or has started some sort of hatred towards you... See, as earlier mentioned, most of "teasers" don't even have a clue that they are irritative. What they are trying to do is passing a message of what is in their heart.

May be he/she dislikes an idea but since they don't know a honorable way to deliver the message, you may see extreme disapproval on the face. SOLUTIONS: Don't look at the actions, just understand that its their way of disagreeing. If you concentrate on the face you'll feel not appreciated. Accept that he/she has their own to express choice. So, if you can execute the idea without causing strives in the marriage life, go ahead!

Okay, there are many real life examples that can be given solutions to, but the most important thing is having the idea on how you can smartly cope with a teasing partner in marriage. Simply have a pre-thinking session with yourself and workout how you can manage things smartly.  

Tuesday

Kill for Love??? -Coping with Marriage life Stress

Cope with marriage stress

From the beginning of this year, stories about lovers killing their spouse, children and themselves have littered the media and all these has directly been linked to cheating. It has raised lots of concern about how really should one handle such like marriage life stress that can prompt murder. Actually cheating is a very serious offence, just like any other issue in marriage. In fact almost any kind of mistake can cause diverse effects in a marriage life if not well handled.

It is extremely vital to have necessary information on how you personally can cope with marriage life and especially when issues come up. Things about love are not taught anywhere in the curriculum despite the fact that they directly influence our lives bumper to bumper. You can't separate love from this life, meaning it's not really good to live single . With this in mind, the best way out is knowing how to cope when things go sower. That is, when stress creeps into your marriage. Lets begin with handling cheating in a marriage.

Whoa, yes, I just mentioned "handling cheating in marriage"and please don't stop reading down because nobody is special, you may think this is not for you, but remember nobody really wants such to happen in their lives. Now the big question is; what will you do if it does, and what if it happens to a friend- what advice will you offer. You don't want to hear more atrocities happening to families? So please let's help each other.

Nobody is strong enough to handle a cheating spouse, but a sober advise can help out. So what's this special that can help you out? ...Simple: understand that your partner is a human being and she/he is a sinner just like everybody else. Show your love to your spouse but don't expect to get a 100percent return of it. Or in simple terms, love but know that he/ she can do anything. And anything means anything.

It is okay, to fully trust your spouse, but it is important to be wise and know we are living in a fallen world, and there is deception everywhere. Look at the way media advises the society, ...life has turned out to be about; who is more sexy, more handsome, who has most admirers, who is what and all sorts of fantasies and destroy good morals.

All these deprive the moral fabric and there is so little you can do to control your spouse from conceiving these misleading illusions. They are allover and in fact they're forcing their way into our minds. While traveling you see adverts of naked people promoting products. On TV,hardly a minute passes by without a confusing advert and so on and forth...

There is no need to take someone's life when you find they are cheating on you. Just look for a less risky solution that will not put you into colliding with law. So if the issue cannot be resolved, just leave them or seek for separation(divorce if need be, though it's not the best option).

Simply understand that what they've done is a costly act and life has a way of punishing that. They cannot escape the wrath of mother nature, their conscience will never allow them to rest no matter what, only God can sort then out in terms of giving peace. May this never happen to anyone reading this. Big time. 

Thursday

Does Everybody really have Problems Like You? - :Fear V's stress in life

Fear vs stress

You may wonder to realize that everybody around you go through the same mental strives and stress as you do. We all have pressing issues and that's inevitable, irregardless of age, economic status, level of education, kind of religion and environment we come from, nobody can claim to be immune to life problems. Up and downs are simply a gift by mother nature to all of as.

Knowing that everybody has their own issues should ease the pressure of stress you feel in life. Accept that live is designed to be that way and you'll have brighter days ahead. Moreover, knowing how to handle fear in life is a great skill that can help reduce worry and make you better while dealing with what you have to deal with.

Note this: Everybody fears what the future holds, fear of reputation, fear of loosing a family member through death, fear of infidelity in marriage, fear of financial instability, fear of speaking in public, fear of failure, fear of success, and so on and so forth. All these are things things that have great power to induce stress in a life.

Can fear be avoided, or you ask, dear writer do also feel scared by these "life-hot-lines"? Oh, the answer is yes... Am also human, and can't deny that. However, Over the years I've learned to deal with fear and stress in life. I realized that fear breeds stress and that most people, me included, fall into the trap. A simple thing like how people think of you can crash your heart, leave alone being shamed on TV by a bunch of cruel journalists.

See, you may find yourself spending lots of time try to impress everybody just because you fear how your image is published in another person's mind. Okay, it not a bad thing, but, why allow that to steal your self-confidence?. Fearing people will only make you a helpless "people-pleaser," you become a slave to those people's interest. And you may not be able to do what's really required by nature.

In fact fearing people is like locking yourself into jail of pleasing the people around. This may makes you change your behaviour and appear controllable to everybody including those who are weaker than you, just as one president puts it; "fear will make your weak enemies feel tempted to scare you."

However even with that saying, even the same president is faced with fears on a daily basis. And since nobody is special, here is what will help you deal with all the fears in life. It's a perfect and working technique that you don't need to buy. Simple: accept and work on fear. So how do you do that?

The fast step to deal with a fear that brings stress in life is analyzing it. Don't run away from it, but try to be sober. If you fear how people take you concerning your weight, -is it a healthy form of fear _or a destructive one. Is the fear pushing you to improving your health or discouraging. Weigh the fear, and if you find it possibly helpful, embrace it for the benefic of your inner being - not purposely to please people.

Then there is this fear of failure, this a bad and destructive form of fear as it makes you feel scared of trying. It's a kind that wants you to give-up. Don't embrace such a fear, just analyze it and seek for way to encourage yourself. To wipe it off, you can deep your mind into inspirational staffs such as quotes or motivational books.

And finally, there is the fear of things that you can't control. This is a very dangerous form of fear as it easily breeds stress and has also affected a larger population. It's the fear of the past, future and death. It not easy to control what happened, what will happen and the type of death that will come your way.

We are all blind of tomorrow and we should accept that. The only solution to this is to accept that we are humans and that we are temporary in this world. Also, make the mind understand that, what is gone is gone, future is privilege and the only way to influence it is doing what we ought to do everyday. Fear is natural but you have the power to control the amount of stress it tries to bring in your life.     

Tuesday

Is Pride Related to Stress in life?

Stress vs pride

Factually speaking, pride ranks as the highest source of stress in life, this is because it's a mind issue just as stress is. So as to get things clearer, let's get the actual meaning of the of the word stress and how is it linked to the strives you experience in life. We'll also check how you can control the stress that steals peace and healthy mindfulness from your daily life.

Stress is a situation whereby the mind gets stuck into a state of worry. The worry comes fast and inhibits how the mind deals with thoughts and fantasies, so that it's ability to solve issues is suffocated. Now, how does pride comes in? See, pride is an inordinate perception of things. It lies to your brain that life should be this and that. And if fully allowed, pride will control your feelings and quality of life.

Pride wants big things to happen, life to run smoother, issues to solve quickly and life to just be wonderful. See, pride will propose this to the brain, and the brain accepts them. However, if things don't go as the per this proposal, that's where worry creeps in and stress follows. And that's why you'll see a financially stable fellow stressed yet they have what the poor admires and think is medicine to stress.

Stress only comes in when you don't get something that you thought you deserve. Otherwise you can't worry over something that you surely know, understand and actively perceive it's a privilege. Now, here are the 2 most ideal way to deal with worry in life, and prevent it from being converted into stress:

#1.Understand what demands to go for and what not to dwell on.
Okay, it is good to fast understand that there is a healthy level of stress in life, and that can't be avoided. This is one that makes us solve issues in our environment. But there is another stress that hacks the brain functioning and makes it somehow retarded. All these,(healthy stress and unhealthy stress) comes as demand signal from feelings, physical needs and economic demands.

It is important that you learn to analyze the demands in your mind(thoughts), what to dwell on and what to shed-off and move on. Don't allow to be hijacked by any passing by thought that crosses your mind in form of pride. Always remember, feelings can create "needs". NOTE: I put "needs" in quotes because they are actually fake needs (in fact this is pride in form of needs), that only come to trouble and stress you up.

For instance, you could be having a severe flu, but your mind proposes that you should get well immediately...Solution: make it aware that healing or getting back to normal is a process, don't embrace the idea but follow experience of things, and how they usually happen.

#2. Deal with fear
The problems that stresses you (also everyone and me included) are born from fear( and fear is another expression of pride...!) want to know how? Simple, we all fear to fail, fear of what people think of us, fear of loosing weight, fear of the weather, fear of rearing children, fear of passing or failing exams, fear of, fear of, and fear of... All these kinds of fear create worry that gives birth to stress in the long run.

So how can one deal with fear? It's a good question that almost everybody in this world would want an answer. However, the answer is simple and just within reach for everyone: simple: define your fears.

See, you cannot avoid fear since it's a natural mechanism that helps to keep us vigilant, all you should do is embrace and define it's purpose. For instance fear of failure simply means you are proud and not ready to be low, fear of what people think, simply means we think we are more special (unrealistically) and therefore not ready to take up criticism. Which means that pride, right-away invites stress.

So every time you feel stressed, just know that it's because you are not ready to accept a situation. You are fighting with pride and it makes you think and feel that things are not alright. It important to note that we can't control everything and that life is generally painful to everybody in this world. Improve on what you can, change situations if you can but don't stress around doing nothing. And if there's completely nothing do for a situation, persevere and concentrate on what important in life.