Wednesday

How to Earn and Maintain More Friends

Friends are like assets in our life, they can't really be called basic needs but the naked truth is that without them life becomes somewhat boring and tasteless. See, life is all about how you make it, and so you can decide to have more friends (assets) or just a few. You can decide to be rich with assets (friend) or to be poor.

The reason I call them assets is because, other than financial gain there are plenty of lessons we get from friends. When a friend fails, you grasp a lesson, when he/she achieve something you also learn. In simple terms, friends are valuables in our lives. In fact there are important experiences that can only be acquired from the friends in our life.

Practically speaking, if you want to measure the maturity level of someone you can do it by seeing how well he/she earns and maintains friendships. This refers to all kinds of friendships. You can make friends with your teacher, parent, children, spouse, pastor or anybody and this can make your life happier and simpler. 

You can tell the extend to which a married couple has matured by their level of friendship and closeness. A mature couple displays friendliness while together and also while with other people. Same case, friendlier people are simply more mature as they have a sense of wanting to uphold the relationship.

So how can you earn and maintain real friends;

1.Be friendly yourself
Being friendly simply means you have to show some readiness to accept someone to be part of your life. Always be keen at first impressions. Yes, you must wear a nice and welcoming face so as to secure attention from your target. Smile and be gentle since its just the beginning of things. Now after you've to talked and you realize there is future in that encounter, prepare to take it to the next level.

2.Give out Exams
Yap, that's exactly what I mean. You ought to test your new friends to avoid future disappointments. Set things up to exactly know what you can expect from him/her. This doesn't have to be a weighing scale to suggest whether the friendship will go on or not, it's just a scale to let you know what to expect from the friend and how to treat them in different circumstances. For instance a person might be good in other areas but fail when it comes to keeping secretes.

Or he/she could be okay in other areas but prone to getting angry often and fast. You have to study the people around you so as to understand how you can always maintain a peaceful environment. 

3.Expect to see negatives just as positives
We often fail and break friendships because of wrong expectations. We want and expect people to always do what pleases our hearts. This is not healthy, you ought to always be ready for anything from humans, whether good or bad. However, it's good to always consider the relationship more than the wrongs and what you want in the friendship.

4.Accept human nature  
And finally accept that man is to error and the fact that we must live with humans. No short cut! Be friendlier by forging and apologizing when needed to.

Thursday

2 Things you Must drop to Make your Wife Love you More

If you can remember how your relationship started, and keep an account of how you used to treat one another during those first days, then you'll easily grasp this concept and make your wife love your more than you can imagine. Yes! You have the magical power right with you. This means you've got to drop those powers working against your relationship and use those that are value adding. Power number one you must drop is; #1.Stop Harsh and negative words. All relationships begin with words, and mostly sweet words. The truth is, when you were commencing your love life, it was filled with many welcoming and soul-lifting words. You used to tell her things like, "your are my one and only sun in the universe" I don't sleep thinking of you, I feel like going bananas when I don't see you" ha ha ha... And so on. Yes, in fact there is a possibility that you even invented all kind of appraisals just to make sure you occupy her heart and mind. You won! Isn't it? And that's why you are with her today. BUT... Do you still want to remain a winner or you to lose her?. It's true you won her over, BUT it's not yet OVER. You have to keep wining her over with your words since you've not gone dump. SO STOP and drop the use of harsh and negative words. You can correct your wife in a polite manner! Power number one you must drop is; #2.Stop Controlling everything One thing that you must understand is, your wife may never perfectly do what you want in life. Okay, there is a manner that you want her to live, but remember that this is a human being with it's own brain, behaviors and lifestyle. I don't mean that you completely leave things to go the way they want, No. I mean, keep on requesting how you want things to go but don't reprimand when they don't. You ought to enjoy the fact that your partner is not a robot and that she has willingly decided to live with you.

3 Techniques to make your husband love you the most.

Love as the most essential ingredient in a relationship must be captivated. It also must be natured to grow and given time to mature. I used to think that loving your spouse is an automatic thing and that it comes natural. It's no longer the case, life has taught me some wonderful lessons and I've have wise up! I come across these 3 hot tips shared with my wife and they work...

#1. Honor
Yap! Easy as it sounds, research has established that men have a great need to be honored in relationships. He just wants you to honor him. He's desperate for it and the perfect person to give it should be you as her wife. Make him your king, treasure his orders even when they don't make enough sense. Okay, that doesn't mean you can't question him, No. If it's questioning or having a contrary opinion, ensure that you first win his ego by making him always know you respect and honor him.

Once he build believe and trust that you respect him, you'll have plenty of privileges to question or even offer your contrary opinions without interfering with his peace. The ideas is, alway make him know you respect him in all circumstances.

#2. Satisfy his needs
Be the kind of woman he would wish to have in the house. This simply means, be smart, wear what he likes to see on a woman. It's important that you understand sex is a priority to your husband. Sounds strange huh? I also wondered when I came across this reality. He is your husband! So give him his dues as much as he would want. Make his life easy and not harder by ensuring he gets all he would need on a woman, and by this you'll catch all his mind.

#3. Feed him
It's important to know your husband was once a small kid. Okay, he's now a man but don't forget his is a "big baby" to you. He needs care and the only care you can give today is showing concern over his stomach. See, you can't carry him around, nor can you baby sit him but. But you can let him understand you care that his stomach is fine and catered for. If you can, cook for him, but if not, ensure that it's you who serves him the food when at home. This makes his brain get addicted to you as you give him what he must have.

Okay there are many other things you can do to affirm your love life but the above 3 has a direct impact to his way of thinking. See, if you honor him, you'll obviously be keen with your words usage, if you often satisfy his conjugal needs he won't want to lose you, and finally if you feed him, he'll take you as important and necessary in his life. Have a big time as you build a stable family life.