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Positive Thinking in Marriage: Make it Work Out!

Marital challenges are inevitable and anybody with experience can tell you that. In fact the issues you go thro has a great essence in shaping your relationship for the better. And in the longrun making life more enjoyable. Factually, it's almost impossible to see the good side of a coin if we've not the bad side, and this is exactly the case with marriage. Its made of two sides. Hence the essence to embrace, acquire and develope a positive thinking mentality if we are to gain from these pains and enjoy life.

First, positive minded people know that life is generally ment to be hard. And the only way to at least enjoy life is to develope your character on how you handle and deal with issues. Simply convince your mind to embrace marital challenges as they are common to everybody. -Let's have a look at a few unchangeable life facts;

(a). Life is generally meant to harden us and that's why its hard.
(b). Marriage is a school full of unending tests
(c). There will always be times of disagreements.
(d).Trust is delicate and doesn't come easily
(e). Selfishness is breeds strife in marriage

The list is long, that's how it is and there is no need to keep running from reality. Positive thinking doesn't mean you assume facts, No. It means you take them for the value they can have in your marriage life. You can use the below tips to to enhance your power of positive thinking;

#1.Make things workout right there in that marriage
You have to take charge of things in your marriage life. Don't concentrate only on seeing defeat, stress and strain. -Felling as if you two are incompatible could just be a mere negative mentality than reality. WORK IT OUT. Go seen a marriage councilor, involve a senior figure whom you both respect. Be positive minded and and seek solutions for your problems.

Point to note: THERE'S ALWAYS A BETTER AND LESS PAINFUL SOLUTION AS LONG AS PRIDE IS OUT OF A SITUATION.

#2.What about he kids
This is an important question that can help you swallow your pride and think positively in that marriage. Just think as kid for a moment and you'll notice how important it is to parent them in the right way. Do you want them to suffer because of your misunderstandings? Okay, there no denial that what you are going thro is painful but, is it enough to be paid for by your kids. Do you want them to suffer the consequences of a strained marriage or divorce?

#3.Time is passing by
Being realistic in life is as wise as being positive. Time is passing by -and its important you settle in life. You can't afford to keep marrying and divorcing, days are passing and as such you may end up overtaken by events. Be realistic and positive so as to settle in the marriage that you are in. You are in that marriage to make it work, because if you don't act who will. Be kind, to your partner instead of magnifying their faults. And finally, concentrate on their strong points always.

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