Top Reasons Why you "can" Remain Single for Long

Being single is not really a mistake, neither should it be taken as a mark of failure on anybody. However there are somethings which can make a person  remain single for a longer period than expected. -The aim for this article is simply to help us reason realistically on this subject of singlehood, and how you can get your partner in a soberly and realistic manner.

Okay, there are many reasons as to why some people are single, but now the big question is: can singlehood be acted upon on in any way...?  Sure it can! This is an issue of concern in the society today, and there should be solutions to it.  -Nonetheless the best way to tackle this is through analyzing the factors that lead to singleness.

So here are some factors that can make you stay single longer than expected, and also how you can avoid them.

-#1. Pride
This comes first as it's one of the greatest enemy to any relationship. See, may people have remained single simply because they overlooked any potential person that came across their path. They couldn't allow nor keep any relationship in the name of; "not my class" not my type" and "not yet time".

Okay, there is always some truth in these phrases but, do you realize the realistic responsibility you have concerning your future. Sometimes, we lie to ourselves with these phrases just to hide from reality and earn praise. Please, please when it comes to matters concerning your future, you should put away pride and establish a thinking chair and plan realistically on your own future. Know what you need in life, but not what your ego wants.

-#2. Wrong Mind-Set
This is another tragedy! Many people are suffering in singlehood simply because of a mind-set problem. We can say "a  poisoned mind-set" They have adopted a believe that marriage is hard, unbearable and painful. Okay, there is truth in that also. But it's important to know, singlehood is not an escape from pains. There is as well tremendous pain that comes with the decision to remain unmarried.

The fact is, there is no where in this world where peace is guaranteed, except in "Christ Jesus".  Don't decide to be single because of other people's stories and arguments, you've got your own life and a future to work on.

-#3 Negligence to the reality of life
I don't know what to call this! But it's a perfect mistake that needs to be urgently addressed! .... Life is not a rehearsal, as some people take it for, instead its a reality that everybody must wake up to. You want a perfect human being to marry, -and you are not perfect? Aha! you want things to happen automatically? ...My my, okay, marriage is a very serous commitment and you must do your "homework", but that shouldn't scare you.

You ought to rise to the occasion! Simply define what you need and want in this life and go for it. For men, go hunt for the right person and stop dreaming. For the ladies, look into life with the eyes of wisdom. Don't be carried away by fantasy, know the kind of man you want and send the right signals!


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Husbands and Respect

There is something special that all married men crave for, and that thing is RESPECT. Call it a weakness and you'll still be correct. However, a wise woman should use this "weakness" to build her own house. Respect to your husband is like a charm that evades his heart and transforms the way he sees you as a wife.  

It is essentially a marital need to him, he can barely live without it and only you as his wife can give it satisfactorily. See, men are like big babies when it comes to their needs, they don't know how to hide. Take this to build yourself in him by creating a non-erasable impression of respect right into this mind. Always create an atmosphere to show how important he is to you and you'll have him all for yourself.

Be keen when he is talking you, the alertness will make him pour his heart on you. And in the long run he'll build trust with you. Always create an impression to show you acknowledge his position in the marriage.

Practically, men have a tendency to dominate but that should work for your advantage as a wife. Don't rival with him, but you can control him with respectful words. Be wise, and the moments he realizes you are wise he will respect you more and more.

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Why your Husband doesn't Appreciate you: WOMEN ONLY!

You wonder what happened, your hubby seem not to notice you in the marriage? While in your mind, you are confident that you are doing everything as expected yet his mind seems to wonder far away...? Worry no more! Here are a few facts that you can work on and be sure of positive results.

These are well researched facts that touch almost each and every marriage life in the world. So be keen to grab your share and save your love life lady!

#1.Are you doing what he NEEDS or what he wants.
See, men are a simple species and not complicated as you may think. Want to know why? ... A man's need is straight forward. Just take him as he is and answer to his needs and wants as he asks. If he says he is hungry simply give him food and you'll catch his attention. Make him your baby by responding to his needs. Make him addicted to you, allow his mind to believe that only you understands him better and you'll never lose him.

Don't straggle with your husband all the time. Men are easily put off by arguments, so don't make it a habit to argue with him all the time if you want to keep him closer.

#2. Don't fantasize
Most ladies live with fantasy of what they think a husband should be like.
Such a mentality is risky and dangerous as it may never be a reality. If you want him to appreciate you and your beauty, you've got to accept him the way he is, and also appreciate him. Acknowledge him and he will notice you. 

#3. Don't change him, teach him
It's almost impossible to change a grown-up but it possible to teach him what you want. However, you must first give for you to receive- aha! Teach him to love you by you first respecting and loving him. Learn his love language and teach him yours. If you love gifts, make him aware by telling him. If you want him to create time for you do it first for him. I mean, make him understand the kind of person you are, and what you value in life!

Respect is the only key to a man's heart, and especially a married man. Your man needs to shown he is the king and you are her queen. Treat him like a king and it will be automatic for him to appreciate you as a queen. Be wise enough to draw a line between what he needs and what he wants.

Don't victimize him because of his conjugal needs, supply to his needs! The moment he becomes addicted to the things you do for him and the respect you show him, he wouldn't want to lose you at any cost. You get all these only on this blog! Welcome again.

Understanding your Spouse : Marriage life Simplified

The greatest problem you'll ever encounter in marriage life is lack of understanding. Or in a more simpler term: not knowing the real person you call your spouse. Factually there is no shortcut to this as you ought to know the real "person" in your spouse if you are to stay happy together! Love alone is not enough. Know his or her character, and you can be sure of a successful marriage.

The greatest mistake you can ever do in marriage is thinking your spouse is an angel and he/she should not make mistakes. My, my, this is a common mindset to all of us. We assume they are not permitted to offend us just because we've given them our life. Okay, that should be literally the case but its not possible. Humans are bound to do mistakes and that's one point we must understand.

Here are a few things you should understand about your spouse in length;

#1. He/she is a companion in your life and not a rival.
#2. You'll only get back what you offer to your spouse.
#3. Both of you are meant for one another so you must create time for that.
#4. Your spouse is someone you can't live without but not someone to live with so can't afford to lose him/her.
#5. Communication is the only door to your partner's heart, -so speak up when necessary
#6. Words are extreme weapons so be careful when you are angry.
#7. Everybody has feelings so consider the feelings of one another.
#8. There is always an element of pride in everybody and this is the only thing that breeds strive.
#9. No one likes to surrender but it's the only way that leads to "am sorry"
#10. You'll never get a perfect match to live with, But only the one you can't live without.