Thursday

Understanding the Language of Your Wife

There is this friend of mine who keeps on asking about the reasons as to why marriages are full of strifes, wrangles and arguments ... However, I find his questioning strange because he's married and has over ten years experience in the relationship. He say's it hardly passes a day without hiccups, and he wonders if its the case with everybody else.

How  lovers turn into enemies over a simple argument is something yet to be discovered by many couples. However ill be honest today and in fact in this very article to explain into details why this happen.

See, we often think that we understand women, but it's very important to note that a WIFE is extremely different from other women especially when she's spending time with the hubby. The chemistry changes when a couple is together, and since they are not conscious of this fact, you find that arguments erupt without any signs nor prior indications.

You may wonder why the chemistry changes, but the truth is: nobody knows because no one can prove. However, the common arguments seen with couples is highly believed to have originated from EDEN. Remember when Eve gave Adam the fruit, and God asked them why they've eaten it? That's when blame game started and unfortunately it has never been resolved. The only way to solve arguments in marriage is understanding what to always expect and how to handle these differences .

What to expect from your wife:

It is natural for a  wife to always try and control the husband but again a husband will aways resist. You know the usually way...! For instance whenever your wife dictates on the directions you should follow while driving, as  the hubby you'll always despise  and demand to do it alone. Ha ha ha... Don't worry this is common to all wives and husbands!

You've gotta understand that's how a wife  is. When it comes to dishing-out guidelines, sometimes  she can be worse, and this applies to all married women. The wife is likened to the "neck" which simply means CONTROL while the hubby is likened to the "head" meaning AUTHORITY, hence the usual misunderstandings.

So, why are these strifes, differences and arguments not visible during courtship? The answer is simple: you were not yet married. Courtship is simply the theory part of  a marriage-life, but now marriage is the practical part, hence the reactions.

So, what's the solution 

Simple!!! JUST AKNOWLEDGE that there is a great phycological difference between you and your wife, learn how to handle her especially when an argument erupts. Don't try to fixed everything immediately as you may end doing more harm than good to her emotions.

Marriage is like politics, and here the rule is, always think before talking. Acknowledge the consequences of your words before uttering them. Words can be medicine but on the other hand, they can be the most distractive weapon in the world of marriage.  By just knowing what's in your wife's mind, you can avoid unnecessary strives and arguments, hence a peaceful marriage.

Wednesday

Cutting Edge Ways to Control Worries in life

Worry is the greatest battle that almost everybody fights, however it's sad that most people loss this battle over and over. I was there, and lost almost every battle that worry offered to me. I am sharing my victory here and hope it'll as well liberate you as well as help you live a worry-free life.

First its important to note that worry comes but through defined medias. There's always something that will cause you to worry and so if you manage to deal with the causes, (as i did and still do) then you'll always overcome all forms of worry. This is what I dealt with;

#1. Stopped people pleasing
I rate this one first because it's what really controlled me. When you want everybody around you to be happy, off-cause you fall into worries all the time. People are people and they'll never fully appreciate your efforts to make them happy. In fact when they note you are a people pleaser they'll USE you to their advantage.

The number one fact that leads to a worry-free life is dropping this people-pleasing-attitude. The bland truth about this attitude is that, it only makes you obsessed for attention hence behaving childish, stupid and unfilled.

#2. Mind My business
It's astonishing how other people can control our lives when when we allow them. We can decided to spend time worried about what will happen to our relatives, friends or even workmates, the government, as well as the bad news allover. Alright, it's true bad things do happen and can happen to our loved ones or even the government but, there is so little we can do to alter the future.

It's more profitable to concentrate with what is within your purpose in this life. Myself I discovered that there will alway be bad things happening and this should not control me. Adopting this and ease your life! Alright, help others if possible but don't try to be God by thinking you can control everything with your worry.

#3. Watch over my mind
The mind will always hoover and present new issues to worry about, something that we've no authority to change. But one fact you can doubtlessly do is choose what to spend time on. It's you to decide on what to think about!

I remember those days when I chose to focus on what I didn't have, things were really bad, and my thinking nearly killed me. See you can choose to think about a dead relative for a whole year -and off-cause expect the consequences! It about choices, the mind will always suggested bad thought as well as good ones but it's upto us to choose what to dwell on.

With this knowledge you can control your thinking, since you know what to expect. Worry is not an accident, it's a choice, you can decide to focus on the good of life and enjoy it! 

Friday

New ways of Coping with Financial Stress

Financial stress is not bad as many people think, in fact if you take it with positivity, it's a type of stress that can be helpful in various ways. It should be an alarm to help you control your spending. The lessons you learn from it can help you ease financial strangles in the longrun.

Why call financial stress a rewarding alarm?
Simple! it helps you understand that something is wrong somewhere in your spending.  Nobody is really caple enough to keep you up-to-date concerning poor spending, in fact even a bank can't do it for you. The only thing capable of helping you balance how you spend, is "financial stress" and this is why you should embrace it. 

Good lessons from financial stress and how one can benefit.

#.Living beyond means
Ensure that you only spend within your brackets of income. Yes, there are lots of popping wants all around which demand to be satisfied, right? Okay, but always remember financial stress awaits you the moment you agree to these demands.

It is like a tickling time bomb you cannot escape. Anything spend beyond what you earn leads to financial stress and that's a fact. Always weight the consequences before spending any extra dime. 

##.Un-fulfilled needs.
Once you are in a constraint it simply means that you'll be unable to quench even the most basic needs. Wich will lead to a life of offsetting debts which you incurred while trying to meet the unavoidable spending.

Overspending simply means sacrificing your daily basic needs in exchange for temporary satisfaction, a thing that should not happen. It's vital to remember this every time you think of throwing and extra coin to a secondary want.